Communication is the heartbeat of every relationship, and the bond between lawyer and client is no different. Listen in as we discuss the challenges and strategies of managing client expectations in the legal field with Matt Murphy from Montana. Specializing in workers’ compensation cases, Matt shares his invaluable experience and emphasizes the importance of being upfront and honest with clients, even when the news isn’t the most favorable. We also tackle the complexities of managing expectations in personal injury cases and the pivotal role trust plays in the lawyer-client relationship.
We highlight the importance of keeping clients in the loop and seeking their feedback, no matter how uncomfortable it might be. Listen to how changes in judges or legal rulings can alter a case’s trajectory and the need to involve clients in the decision-making process. Get insights on the importance of transparency and the art of delivering difficult news. Matt shares practical tips on effectively communicating with clients and setting realistic expectations.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone in the legal field looking to enhance their client communication skills and build stronger relationships. Learn about the importance of open communication, managing expectations, and maintaining a strong client-lawyer relationship.
In this episode, you will hear:
- The importance of building client relationships
- Importance of communication and trust
- Challenges with accepting medical treatment choices
- Importance of documentation and contact information
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Episode Transcript:
Hi there. Another quick introduction for our guest, Matt Murphy, who is joining our podcast. Matt Murphy is a lawyer in Great Falls, Montana. He practices with his dad and his brother and has basically grew up helping in the law firm in some capacity since he was 12 years old. He has a passion for workers’ comp and he is currently a co-chair of the workers’ compensation section for the Montana Trial Lawyers Association. If you have questions,
about Montana or workers’ comp law, please reach out to Matt. His contact will be in the show notes. Hello and welcome back to the podcast Trial Lawyer App. I’m your host, Elizabeth Lerner, and we have a shiny new episode today with a wonderful guest from a state that I have a very special place in my heart, poor Montana. Matt is joining us. We heard a little bit about his bio in the mini intro, but I wanted Matt to come join us because I met him.
multiple times at an Intili Montana Trial Lawyers Association seminar. And he has this great bubbly personality. I know that he loves what he does. And he has a true heart for helping workers and his workers comp, which I know a lot of folks that are listening, even my Texas folks are thinking, well, I don’t do workers comp. And that’s okay, because what we’re going to talk about today is client management and more specifically more about client expectations. And
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This came up for me here recently where I was assisting and helping with a trial and there was some definite expectations that had been missed. And so the client had quite a huge expectation for this trial and their time on the stand, which was very different from reality. So we had to work with that. And so that kind of spun itself into an episode. And I thought, gosh, Matt would be great for this because I know he loves his clients.
He’s also a pretty good straight shooter. thought, let me get Mountain here to help us. So Matt, welcome to the podcast.
Thank you very much, Elizabeth. That’s very flattering. And I can’t really imagine a better compliment for an attorney than it being obvious to other people that they love their clients. Cause we do. And I’d say that we, cause I speak for all of Murphy Law firm. And I’d also like to return that. Thank you for all that you do. We’ve really learned a lot by listening to your podcast and attending your speeches at the Montana trial lawyers association. So thanks for everything that you do as well.
Well, pile it on now. love this set up, that’s why it’s part of the podcast and why this podcast is really made for people who are working with clients, first-hand clients, workers, comp, employment law, a little bit of business litigation stuff, because managing client expectations is really across the board. But where it tops up so often for people like us and like you is when we’re having our clients that are going to testify.
or they’re coming to a hearing or they’re going to mediation and understanding really what we need to be doing so that we kind of avoid some of these places where we need a lot of trust from our clients when it comes to handling a case and making decisions for that case. And when it’s their turn to come in and do testimony or be at a mediation and answer questions, right? We want to make sure that they’re going to trust our guidance and coming to trial as well. So just from the standpoint of like,
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Why is this even an issue for us as lawyers? And my perspective is we go through law school. We’re super trained to think intellectually and be super logical about stuff. And sometimes managing expectations feels like stickier and a little bit more emotional when it’s straight work for us. So I know it’s hard to have the conversation with people. And has that for you, Matley?
practicing, has that been kind of a hard conversation or a little bit uncomfortable to help manage people’s expectations?
Absolutely. And it’s kind of shameful to say, but in Montana, work comp, that arena, you have a lot of that because the benefits that an individual is going to get in a work comp claim, that pretty much day one anymore, I will have the conversation that says, you’re not going to be in love with the result. No matter what I do, no matter what anybody does, the law just affords the remedies that it affords.
It’s a insurance policy written by the Montana legislature. That’s the Work Comp Act. And it just keeps getting whittled away, whittled away. It’s been on this downward trajectory for well over 50 years here in Montana. I know that’s not just true in Montana. I’m familiar with other state schemes. so you’re not going to be able to tell a Work Comp client, we are going to have our day in court talking to the jury.
about the human damages. There is no pain and suffering. There’s no loss of consortium. There’s no established course of life. So you’re limited to statutory medical, statutory wage loss benefits. Those are capped in all sorts of crazy ways. I could go on for days about it. We’ve challenged the constitutionality of those statutes. You we’ve had a case in every decade for over three decades, at least one, but those are hard. They take forever. You got about a 4 % chance of winning right out of the gate.
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So anyway, you are in most of the clients that I represent having a conversation day one about the fact that the benefits that are available to them are going to be less than what they’re hoping for, certainly less than what they’ve lost. I mean, we are not getting made whole in a work comp claim. And I’ve realized that you kind of got to start on that foot because if you just talk them into
how well you’re going to do and how big of a delivery you’re going to have day one and then a month later or three months later or a week before trial, which would be terrible. Now you’re bringing this to their attention. You’ve already lost it. So they don’t want to hear it, but they can tell you’re being honest and they can tell you know what you’re talking about and that you’ve had that conversation before. So yeah, back to your question. Yes, we have that conversation. Unfortunately, it’s a little bit easier in the work comp context because you can
almost have this common enemy, the Montana legislature. And here’s this book and I’ll show you the exact verbiage, which is a little bit different than all the complexities of trying to explain why, you know, when you go before the jury, things might be a little bit different than what they hope, but that, you know, that only gets you so far. It’s still going to be on you to be honest and candid and establish that rapport with your client.
Yeah. And I think you kind of nailed it. It’s really about the timing of the conversation and how you’re presenting it because that’s a total intellectual like, you think this is what you deserve. This is literally what it says it like and why. And you can go talk to six other people. They’re going to tell you the same things. But a lot of times, I’m unsure you’ve had this in practice where you have somebody who comes to talk to you and they interviewed a lawyer and they say, well, the other lawyers didn’t say that. The other lawyer said this or that. Then it really kind of comes down to
how do you express yourself in the most honest way possible? Like, I’m just here to help you and here’s truly what it says, you know, I’m not making this up. I’m not just trying to get you to sign on. And I do think it’s really kind of one of those things where people…
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It’s just a hard conversation sometimes to have and it’s hard to break people’s expectations and to know you’re not gonna be made whole. I that’s a great example. Like there’s this whole loss here of like, here’s where you need and here’s what the law provides. And I think even that happens a lot of times in car wreck cases as well, where it’s just like, you know, well, $5,000 is all they’re offered. And it’s like, that’s true. There’s not really a guideline for this, but that’s why we go to trial and why our litigation and all these other things. That’s kind of where
You have to constantly be talking about managing these expectations. You said, Hey, you guys do it right in front you. Are you doing it along the way as the case goes along? Or, know, when you guys are coming up to that making decision point, how else do you work in managing those expectations?
So with comp, you know, that’s easy for me to answer because I do it right off the bat, but it’s for specific reasons. That is the statutes that prescribed benefits are just, I don’t like them. And I can say that and I can say how we lobby and I can tell them all the stuff we do behind the scenes that are in their case to try to change that. Some of it works. All of it helps. Most of it doesn’t do a whole lot, right? But that’s an easy one for like say a car wreck case.
or really any personal injury claim where it’s not so black and white, you don’t really have that common enemy, the statutes that limit benefits. Instead, as we all know, oftentimes the enemy is some aspect of your client’s case, or in other words, some aspect of them. And I don’t think you’re going to be able to understand it well enough to really get into it day one. But what you can do and what I certainly do is day one, I mean, I do this before I hire.
In fact, if I’m thinking, I mean, I usually probably do this twice before we sign them up, just to ask them, what are your expectations? I find that most people and by most is probably a vast majority are reasonable with their expectations. want to get my car fixed because I’m missing work right now and this rental isn’t working out. My neck hurts. I want to get my medical bills covered. I’ve had to miss a month of work and I got a mortgage. I mean, that’s all totally reasonable stuff.
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And so pretty clearly right out of the gate, you’re going to realize this individual has reasonable expectations that I shouldn’t be able to meet if I’m doing my job and I hope I am. So you’re going to have that conversation in the intake and then you’re going to have that conversation when you meet with them in person. Because part and parcel to all this is during your representation of clients in whatever realm, you got to be meeting with them in person and you got to be talking with them and you should be asking them, what are your expectations now?
as the case progresses and you’ve had a number of conversations with them where you’ve covered this item in this conversation, a development, now it’s Depot Prep. you know, as the case grows and your relationship with that client should be growing, if you’re calling your client for the first time the week before a deposition, I don’t know how you tell them anything. How can they trust you? How could you trust them? As it goes, I think most of time you’ll find their expectations shift a little bit and kind of track.
what it should based on what you’ve been telling them, based on what you know about the case that you’ve been communicating to them, based on the rapport that you’ve established by having really good communication and always shooting them straight. And you kind of mentioned clients that come in that have consulted with other law firms are almost like testing you. I find that the easiest and the only really solution to that, but certainly the easiest is just shoot them straight in plain English and let them know. And if they don’t like it, you’re doing yourself a favor, but
they’re probably going to like it because you might be the first person that’s actually, you know, shot them straight in, whether they have a law degree or not. People like juries can detect the truth and the credibility they got, you know, like Jerry Spence says, psychic tentacles. And they have that in your office. They’re looking at you. You know, that they know when you’re exaggerating, even just a little bit versus when you’re shooting them right down the middle. And that’s how you got to approach that.
Mm-hmm. I totally agree. And I think that’s kind of part of some place where we don’t sometimes as lawyers stop and ask that they open a new question. What are your expectations now? How do you think things are going right now? We’re really just stopping and listening and asking that open-ended question. Most of the time when we are calling and having conversations, it’s us telling them.
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here’s what’s happening, here’s what the next step is, here’s these instructions, here’s this, right? And so that stopping and listening along the way, like you said, really helps to build that trust. And also I think it’s really important for us to also express what we expect as well. And that way you’re building that relationship together where it’s a tit for tat, like you tell me, I’ll tell you, right? So we’re constantly on the same page because what can happen if we don’t…
those conversations early and often is, I I’ve seen people get fired, I’ve seen people get sued, I’ve seen, honestly, like a client basically loses interest and it’s just like they’re like, whatever, I don’t want to do this anymore, let’s finish this out. And then, obviously, you never get a referral or a good review from that person when it was probably just a matter of having these conversations. And nobody wants that to happen, but…
What I saw in that case was basically what started as probably a small seed grew into this giant tree of anchor. And it was just like, how do we now manage this? Because now we have a whole different set. We’re not changing it. That is set and we’ve got to now somehow work and manage around this when we probably could have done that a long time ago and not have this.
giant ball of anger ever dealing with. So let me toss it back to you, Matt. What are some of the things that you’ve seen happen when we don’t manage clients expectations?
And that’s a really good analogy because if you represent people long enough over in complicated areas of their life, because I mean a personal injury lawsuit, as much as we try to limit the inquiry and as much as we try to keep as much of our clients privacy to themselves as possible, their whole lives get opened up, whether they like it or not. Regardless of what we do, it just happens. So you’re involved in all areas of their life. And when it’s that broad for that long, you…
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You’re going to have, you know, we’re people, we’re people, there are people, going to, you’re going to have some issues that start as seeds. And I really do feel like you can at that phase intervene, salvage the relationship by doing so. It’s just like having your first fight with your significant other. You become stronger in your relationship with that person and hopefully you don’t have to have too many fights, but we’ve had plenty of clients that are extremely difficult that
Nobody else could help. And we have some excellent firms and we’ve had clients had to move on as well. Sometimes that is what is necessary, but we kind of pride ourselves on being able to take a problematic client, if you want to call them that, or someone who’s really difficult to work with and get through it by being honest, by counseling them, you know? So yeah, you got to keep asking the question, what are your expectations? But you also got to keep asking, how you feel? How’s it going? What do you think? Could we be doing anything differently?
The only reason you wouldn’t ask certain questions like that, I think as a lawyer is because you’re kind of insecure about what the client might say. And there’s no reason for you to be like that. You know the law better than them. You know the process better than them. You should not worry about what they’re going to say because whatever it is, it’s going to lead to the route that you need to address to get back on that same page with them. And you can’t forget your obligation to be a counselor of law. You’re their advocate. You’re staring up through the legal process. part of that
And as we all know, the part that pays massive dividends by the time you’re actually getting to trial or getting them through a deposition, if it doesn’t go to trial, is the rapport and the trust that you’ve established with them. So I think your question, I went off on a tangent there was, what have we seen? What are some examples of breakdowns or bad state developments that have to be communicated that lead to a disgruntled client essentially, right?
One that actually just happened to me last week was in Montana, we’ve had a work comp judge for well over a decade who I wouldn’t say trust more than the new judge by any means. It’s just, know this old judge that I’ve been trying cases in front of and had conversations with, listened to him speak. So I’m really comfortable predicting how I think he’ll approach certain issues. Now we have a new judge, you know, in the appointee process, there’s partisanship to his degree.
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Not that I believe this new judge has that problem, but is an unknown. And so it has to change the advice that I’m giving to my clients. And it sounds like I’m saying something different than I said six months ago, because we’re still in the litigation process, pretty far from trial. That’s not what’s happened. It’s just a new judge got appointed. So things did change. And this isn’t a great example because this client wasn’t disgruntled, but the reason was they weren’t happy.
They didn’t like what I was telling them, but I’ve had enough communications with this person. I’ve put the time in, had enough interpersonal reactions and been able to actually bring them into my office and face to face enough. And they know me now. They know my paralegal very well. They know our secretary. You know, they just, trust us. So I was able to explain to them, show them. now we ultimately resolved that case for less than I probably would have advised under the old judge, but with the unknown and
some new issues, I do believe it was the right decision. So, you know, that’s one example. And then I can think of many more where due to a new fact or say a legal ruling, you’ve kind of had a lot of your eggs in a basket. You get a bad ruling. Now you’re telling this client, well, it’s not going to be anywhere near where we were hoping to get. But if you set that up right by explaining that at the outset, it shouldn’t be that difficult to say, see, remember when we talked about this before?
And now it happened. now we’re kind of in this camp A as opposed to camp B where we were hoping to end up.
Yeah. And I think that’s exactly because rulings change cases. We don’t have any control over that. You know, we can try and predict things. You may take a deposition and all of sudden you learn one of the claims that you thought was maybe pretty viable is now dead, right? Dead in the water. got facts that basically kind of obliterated, you know, not obliterated, basically take away your factual basis for the claim. And that’s sometimes where, like you said, it goes back to when you’re making a motion.
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or you’re taking depositions, I think sometimes we forget we need to check back in and say, hey, let’s just do it, check it, and we took these depositions, here are the facts that we found out. This is it impacts what we’re doing. It’s gonna change things this way or that way. We can predict as best as we can, but I think that’s part of going back in and keeping that education going and keeping that conversation open because I think I’ve seen that happen quite a bit, like where it’s like, you take that opposition.
you find out something new that’s detrimental and it’s like, I dread, I don’t want to make that call or I have that equal client who I know is going to be really like, you know, and I think you made a very good point of like getting that person in person. And I think even just getting somebody in Zoom because that way they’re able to see your face and see how you’re expressing yourself and making yourself available. And it’s not that you’re saying, I’m sorry we failed because
We can’t control what happens in that position. The facts come out or how a judge rolls. And I certainly have had a situation where I had to call a client and just say, yeah, listen, this happened and it was a mistake. You know, and here’s what I can do to make up for it. And here’s how it’s going to impact things. And anytime I have like totally come to the carpet and just said, this is what happened. Everybody’s sure like, okay, like we get in a problem solving node and set it like.
fixating the problem. And that’s generally what I try to say is like, listen, this is where we are now. Like, here’s how I’m going to help. Here’s how we’re going to make up for it. But because at the same time, think like you said, you’ve done a good job of bringing people along in the relationship. And in that case, they’re going to have enough trust in backgrounds to know like, okay, this is what Elizabeth said at the outset. You know, this is what Matt said at the outset. But here’s where we are. And it’s okay to remind people the battles that you’ve been through to get to this place. It’s not, is not easy.
for you or for them. they, think sometimes they forget about like, it’s a battlefield all way through. So keeping that education open as well, I this is a huge factor in keeping people, cause that, think that surprise factor is the worst thing. That’s what I, I, it’s the worst thing.
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Yeah, surprise coming after a massive gap in communication and they haven’t heard from you and then all of sudden you just call them with bad news. You can’t expect anybody to be okay with in any type of profession, right? You go get blood exams from your doctor and six months later they call you and say, well, yeah, you know what? You got a month to live. You’d be like, I kind of expected a call earlier or you bring your car into the mechanic and then they send you off on your way. And then six months later,
The car breaks down and they’re like, well, yeah, I mean, your engine was bad. mean, that’s would be unacceptable in any realm. It’s not acceptable here either in ours. And ours is very complicated and very interpersonal. So I think there’s even like a heightened duty on us to meet those client standards of trust and communication and relationship building. And you kind of mentioned, well, you often mentioned in the multitude of episodes that you have addressing depo prep specifically, but also trial prep.
One really good way to kind of keep your client in the loop that doesn’t necessarily require that you set up an in-office meeting is to just send them these developments in the case as you go. it’s almost like giving them homework, but it’s also keeping them in the loop. It’s also keeping them invested. So I will send them every deposition transcript, unless it’s, I mean, I can think of some examples that I wouldn’t, but any fact witness, their doctor, I will just send them and say, Hey, you know, if there’s a
Obviously big bombshell fact. I’ll point that out and call them in and whatever. But if it’s just pretty run of the mill tracks with more or less, but obviously every deposition does has some new information, maybe good, maybe bad, whatever it might be. Send it to him. Hey, give this a read and tell me what you think. Like just a quick little cover letter. Sometimes they won’t call you. I don’t, maybe sometimes they don’t read it. I’ll call them out later. If they don’t, Hey, what’d you think of that deposition? Did you see that part where Dr. So-and-so said that? it’s like, Hey man.
I send you stuff to read, expect you to read it just like I’m reading it and I’m there. And if you send me an email, I read every word and you can check them there. But it keeps them coming along. It keeps them apprised of developments. Oftentimes they’ll call you. Sometimes they’ll give you really good stuff. They’ll say, hey, that’s not, that’s not right. And here’s somebody that I know that can refute that. Or here’s why I know that’s not correct. A lot of times they’ll just say, man, Dr. Miller really kind of bailed on us there. He told me in the appointment that
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He was a hundred percent sure this was causally related and now he’s saying that he doesn’t really know. And you’re like, right. And that’s his testimony and that’s going to affect the value and that’s going to be what the jury hears. And so now you have that conversation and it doesn’t have to happen in the mediation or they don’t read it in the motion in lemony or whatever it might be. So you can keep your clients involved with a simple letter and a transcript and email.
And they’ll get it. I mean, they’ll understand most of the stuff and when they don’t understand, guess what? It’s good time to have a conversation and get them on same page.
Yeah. And city people transfers is pretty intense. I’m not gonna lie. I it’s when it’s in your example was for their doctor, like you go take their doctor, like here’s your doctor set, you know, then reading or rep stuff, a little bit. And it’s just, you know, like some people get like super lost and they’re going to give up, but I like it. Even just giving a quick recap email or.
Yeah that one, yeah.
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I love using, cause people love videos. Like I love using Loom, it’s free and you can make a five minute video for free. And they literally just watch, cause again, you talking like we love, we’re easy. Talking to us is like easy. So you can talk that out without having to write it. Cause if you’re like me, like when I write a client email or an employer email, like I write it and I leave it and I come back and I read it again. Cause I just want to make sure like, can I be clear?
How can I leave no ambiguity here? Like, am I covering everything versus like, I think when you say it, it’s five minutes, you can watch it again and speed it up. And so can they, and email will even do a transcript as well so they can kind of watch it. But keeping up with people that way, in a way they’re gonna read it in a page. And of course, I always ask myself, what’s the easiest way for us to communicate? and I know you’re gonna like, some people love email. Of course, I love email. We live and breathe email, but some people don’t. Like, well, can you just text me? Like, sure.
And you can do the same thing on your phone. Just text, talk, or do that little audio file really quickly just to let them know. And like you said, it’s like, do you want more? Let’s get a recall. Or are you good? Just making sure there is anything else. But I love that because those little changes from that position, that’s where you’re going to get an ideation and that’s where it’s going throw it at. You’re like, well, that’s not what they said that appointment, right? And then it’s like,
Okay, now we’re going to be in a huge deadlock because your client thinks that’s one way, but in reality, that’s just not how it out in demo. So that’s a good solid example. And why I really like taking the client demo a little bit later is again, so you have that ammo, like you know what’s in there. So you know where that client has to fill in those gaps. Then that significantly helps. And so they don’t have to get you down on the leads.
But okay, here’s where that gap is and here’s where the client can help or prepare and understand. then I think, like you said, the more we can kind of get them invested in what their role is, the better they are at meeting our expectations and for themselves and helping them kind of get through the emotional and psychological burden of being in this situation, being permanently injured at times, or there’s always going to be some kind of major impact to people’s lives when they’re injured.
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Like that is such a huge component of giving them a role in the ability to do the rest of it.
precisely and everything we’ve been talking about so far is super important in establishing the trust and the ability to have those conversations with your client for better or for worse. The ability for them to be coachable because as you’re talking with them more and more and as you’re keeping them invested and involved in the case, they are becoming more and more coachable. I have not had an example yet where a client just can’t help but
eventually perceive, okay, this is a complicated situation that I’m not familiar with, that I need help with, or at least I would benefit from help. But what it also does is it enables you to do your job. I mean, it serves so many different benefits, but if you really want to be able to present the best version of your client’s case to the judge or the jury, especially the jury, you got to understand them, you got to know them, that’s going to take time.
And so you’re checking off all these important boxes when you’re doing these trust and relationship building activities, like going to their house. I mean, you want to get on somebody’s level. I, again, I think, you know, obviously this isn’t my idea, but I read this in the first Jerry Spence book I ever read. I mean, you go have a meal with your client in their house. mean, so that you’re going to, they’re going to trust you. They’re going to like you and they should. mean, it’s a special thing to be able to do that and for people to invite you in.
It’ll build that trust. It’ll allow you to have honest communications with them. It’ll give you access to the inner circle in their mind and in their heart, but it’ll also give you the tools that you’re going to need to present their case. So you don’t have to think of it like you’re only doing this so that someday if you need to give them bad news, you’ll be able to do that. It will help with that, but it’s kind of necessary to enable you to do the job if you end up in trial and everything in between, even writing the settlement brochure.
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or the mediation brochure. mean, you will do a much better job having an intimate understanding and relationship with your client versus not really of having had much communication with them up to that point. And it, sure as can tell, so can attorneys, so can mediators. They know.
Absolutely. I would sell people what they’re going to go to trial. Do you your client? Because if you, who cares about the jury things, because they’re going to know right off the bat, you don’t want to post. But I think there’s also this occasionally when I’m talking with lawyers about preparing and bonding and people would say, my personality is just not necessarily very warm to that bonding perspective. And that’s where like, like the just having
open conversations, asking them about their expectations and constantly talking with them and listening to them is still, oh my gosh, goes leaps and bounds to that bonding and that trust relationship. Even though it feels like you’re still very much seeking to like an intellectual place, like checking in and keeping those lines of communication open, that’s half the battle because bad facts can happen anytime. They can be at the beginning, they can be in the middle, like…
depositions can change things and like avoiding conversations that are difficult because you’re busy or your skill letter apparently will take care of it. Like all those things just totally lead to trouble because it just kind of alls up. And then like I said, it can just lead to maybe having to take an avenue to your client really isn’t happy with or sometimes what I’ve found is even if you do everything right, you’re going to learn a lot about your client who…
will never have their expectations met. But you know the front end and you know how to manage it. Like, okay, like you said, difficult clients, we’re all gonna have. But as long as you’re doing your half a load on what expectations are and educating and doing all that, then you can at least tell them, hey, listen, we’re talking about this. I’m not hiding anything. You’re being upfront with how you feel and I’m being upfront with what the facts are. So we can work through this together or if you think somebody else do better. Because again, like you said, there are some people that you just
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Yeah, absolutely. And the obligation is not become their best friend. In fact, I mean, that happens. mean, I’ve become friends with my clients and I don’t think there’s anything necessarily wrong with that, but that can be a problem. And that’s not, again, that’s not the job description or requirement. This doesn’t have to be a relationship where you’re going to be best buddies with this person. But if you’re considerate and I say considerate because I mean, you don’t just get to be so busy that you’re blowing off.
their feelings or you’re not taking the extra steps to make them feel good. mean, you need to polish and do that. And then just being honest, you’re going to develop mutual respect. That’s what’s important. That’s what the jury needs to see. And they will. We talked about how, well, the insurer and the defense attorney will know that the jury will definitely know whether you like your client and what your client thinks of you relatively quickly. And that’s critical. I mean, if your client doesn’t trust you, how’s the jury going to trust you, right?
And that’s if you get to trial, if you don’t get to trial, there’s definitely a reality where you could end up in the same spot result wise, but depending on the route you took to get there, one being that you had a good relationship with your client the whole way, their expectations are met, they’re satisfied, they’re a happy customer, they give you good reviews. Nothing gets you off on a better foot than when your client comes to you because their best friend or their brother or someone that they really trust is the one that sent them to you.
So just having good referral sources by maintaining that standard is probably the best thing you can do for yourself, but you can get to the same result that way, or you can go the way where, you you still get them the money or whatever it is, but you didn’t have a good relationship during that period of time. They’re not happy. And I definitely have seen that every client’s different, but in my experience, it’s more often than not how they feel about you and how they feel like you’ve been doing their case.
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et cetera, then the ultimate result that’s going to factor into how happy they are with you. And again, I mean, with work comp, I’m already in my mind going, wow, there’s all these examples where no matter what, they’re not going to be happy necessarily with the result. But knowing that at the outset, okay. And then taking them through and showing them and being really communicative throughout seeing this is what I was talking about. This is what we talked about on day one. And then after this, whatever it is and
going forward and this is that lie I told you about, now this what we’re saying to the judge. They will be a lot happier and ultimately they’ll know you did your best. They’ll know you knew what you were doing and that you did a good job. And they will put the blame where it’s supposed to be, which is on the law, on the legislature, not on you. You can have a very happy client after the fact, even if they can’t get full justice, like you’re not getting in a work conflict.
And I think what you’re saying is absolutely true for car cases. I mean, I definitely think of many examples of percentage cases where, especially in men’s males, like anywhere you practice men’s male is going to be like, there’s just not going to be generally, there’s not going be enough quote unquote justice to go around because it’s just, that’s the sway of the laws, right? And I think you’re right. You can take two pads. can take the…
The path for, yeah, you’re going to have to spend some time on that relationship and expectation. And that means you and your office, like you said, it’s always a team effort and always have everybody communicating, or you can make it difficult and have less communication. Yes, you’re getting the job done. Yes, you’re going to get to that finish line, but at end of the day, like where’s it going to end up? And I think what people understand is people.
They may not ever understand why a law is written the way that it is. Like they may never understand people at that capitol are making decisions that really truly impact them. They may never get that, but they will totally get how you treat them. How you treat them as a lawyer is how they will believe any lawyer will treat them. And we sometimes are the only lawyers they have contact with. And I always try to keep that in mind because when I was growing up and along the way there were lawyers and
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To me, they just had all this power over my life and other people’s lives. And it was just like, wow, what an impact they’re making. I don’t know that anybody will feel that way. They have that same expectation of like, what will you do for them will totally impact their lives. And it’s true, even if you get the best result, which is still not the greatest, you’re still making an impact on their life. And I think we always should be keeping that in mind. It’s like, okay, I know what I do as a lawyer is pretty normal to me because I do it every day.
those people like it makes a huge difference and how I really is how they’re going to proceed all years and I want that to be a good thing.
Absolutely. mean, how many of us have heard about, have had examples where clients are going, I just don’t trust that doctor and I don’t want to treat with them anymore. And you’re going, Ooh, that’s a really good surgeon for sure. It’s just a bedside manner. And so that doctor with the little charm school, I mean, they’re the best doctor in the Northwest, but it is a necessary part of the job. And more so, think with us than, you know, the surgeon who can show up and do a good surgery, but it contributes greatly to your client satisfaction.
their impression of attorneys. We kind of talked about at the outset, I mean, when the client comes through the door, they have expectations for their situation, their injury, their claim, but they also kind of have a preconceived notion of you. unfortunately, a massive, and even clients who walk through our doors, a massive portion of that is tort reform and just schist lawyers and whatever you want to call us. mean, they all have that.
And my brother is a general contractor and he’s always got about six to eight blue collar construction workers with him, whether it’s in his living room, whether they’re out getting a bite tea, whatever it is. I just, that’s my focus group. That’s my down and dirty focus group. Cause that speaks for Great Falls, Montana, especially. I’ll just run, float the ideas by them in all regards. They’ll just…
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almost dial it in in five minutes, what I’ll spend thousands of dollars and hours doing with a formal focus group. But one of the things we will periodically discuss is lawyers in general. And those are the guys that I represent, guys and gals. mean, they get hurt in that construction trade. Those are the people we represent and they’re going to have that initial impression. They’re walking in and their whole lives, maybe they’ve been kind of degrading us in just cheerful conversation. All those lawyers. You’re starting on that slide.
And what will immediately kind of immunize that problem is honesty. It’s that simple. You just shoot them straight and simple and they’ll pick up on, they know how to read. Yeah.
And I think trade bleeding that over, it’s the billboards, right? It’s the billboards with the millions and millions, the commercials with the millions and the millions. And most of the time, there’s a lot of clients that I would deal with because I’m like, well, okay. I always ask people like, what do you think happened to that person that they had to get millions and millions and millions? Like, right. And that’s kind of perspective, not necessarily expectations, but let’s keep ourselves in a perspective where we kind of got to do that.
helping with some comparisons. But yeah, I mean, it can be super frustrating because people do come in with that. And doing it day in and day out, like, you eat what you can. Like, we got to keep that will be all we got to keep people coming in. And I think sometimes we forget to like stop. And what’s your experience? Hey, what do you expect of me? And just to make sure that we’re checking in and doing that and in the correct way. And because you never know and you just you can, something can totally creep up and you just like, you don’t know until too late. And all of there’s you me and you’re like,
don’t know, like when is it that they’re upset about? Like, and you just don’t know. And that’s kind of like getting that whole hidden surprise thing. It in, we’re just like, or you get really upset about something that they’re doing. And it’s like, okay, if these things are happening, like just stop, conversation.
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Yeah, bring them in, get them in. The minute it bubbles over, get them in. Just, just stop call. You got to, we’re setting up an in-office appointment. That’s it. Come on in. mean, that’s, found that to be one of the most effective tools in the toolbox. Just immediately. Once it’s officially passed the boiling point, just, okay, we’re going to postpone this and we’re going to talk again when you come to my office or I’ll come to you, whatever, but we’re going to meet in person.
I mean, that cures the majority of those issues in my experience.
I agree. And I think people want your attention and then it’s by the attention and then it’s really difficult to stay really upset. When someone’s sitting across and you like literally just listening, it’s like, I can’t really be like upset with you while you’re just sitting or listening to me. And then we’re pro-assaulting. And it’s not like everybody has to say, of course, well, I’m sorry. And like, that’s not what we’re talking about. Cause sometimes it’s just the job. Like we can’t be sorry about a judge’s ruling. We can be disappointed in it.
Like that’s for sure. Like I’m just flying here and this one here’s how we pick up the pieces. And I think sometimes that’s where like we think, somebody has to apologize. It’s like, no, sometimes we just have to get together, talk about whatever it is that’s upsetting, figure out if it’s really something we can control and then let it go or work with it.
Yeah, that’s what they want. They want a problem solver. come in, they’re coming to you to fix this problem, to make this situation work for them. mean, so you’re right, but you can’t, like you said, you can’t just jump there. You got to start with the, just the same stuff you’d start with anybody, any human about when they’re going through a tough time or a difficult situation, the same exact rules apply. And it’s easy to put on the professional.
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face and just not want to go there and not talk about emotions and not talk about disappointment for fear that you might be admitting that you’re the one that disappointed them or for fear that they might blame you. Don’t be afraid of that. mean, talk about it and allow them to talk about it and express themselves. They’ll feel better. They just having them re-explain the story in their own words will dispel some of that.
trauma, if you want to call it that. It’s the psychological facts. And then you can get to the problem solving, which is of course where we want to go right away. And in that realm, you know, have options and obviously have a plan, know your stuff. I mean, you generally will and certainly probably more so than them by leaps and bounds, but still don’t wing that part. When you’re delivering bad news with a follow-up of now what should we do? Don’t wing it. Have a good plan. Have thought it out yourself.
And I find that given them options, mean, as much as you might say, look, man, you know, there’s a really ought to do option A, but still, if that’s the only option you present, it’s a little bit suspicious. I would be suspicious of that if someone was saying this is all you can do. You only have one option. No, no, that’s never true. I literally can’t think of a circumstance in life where that is true. mean, and so right away you’ve activated their.
The part of their brain that’s going, Ooh, Ooh, I might want to get a second opinion here. So give them some options. You know, here’s some different choices. mean, my recommendation is they’re going to probably go with your recommendation. Obviously you’re the professional. That’s why they hired you. But they like choices. I like choices. Everybody likes choices. These are the potential consequences. Shoot them straight on that because if there is an obvious option, the potential consequences are going to make that obvious to them too. So.
I mean, there’s definitely a way that you can structure that conversation without them blaming you, maintaining trust, in fact, strengthening it, dispelling some of that trauma for them, and then getting on the same page and making it their choice to be going down the road that we’re now going down.
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Yeah, perfect advice. Because anytime you try to just tell someone what to do, here’s what, this is the only option. Like I’m telling you what to do. Like the inner two-year-old and I, it just pops up, you’re not going to tell me what to do. Like you said, I’m always awkward. So it’s like, okay. That’s why like, anytime you like try to just give someone a list of instructions, like people are always going be like, well, you know, I’m going to do it with my, cause again, our inner two-year-old. I think that’s.
super advice, is prepare yourself in that conversation, have options, know what those consequences are, each option. And then also I think going in knowing you’re going to first listen, let them invest, let them tell what’s upset with them and their own words. And so trying to go in and recap and say, okay, so I know that you’re mad. And so let’s just like hear them hear the options. Nope. You got to take that first step.
Listen to them, let them get it out and then move through like kind of with that, move it into that auto-solving area and having those things ready and set and go for you and have thought up root even just five minutes.
It’s probably, not going to take you that long depending on if the legal issue is really complicated. You probably already briefed it and that’s why you’re having this conversation. I mean, it’s not like that takes a massive time commitment, but you should be polished in part of the presentation because that is what you’re bringing to the table.
Absolutely. I think most of the time we have options, a lot of them lead back to leaning more on the client to get something forced. Like, okay, this is what the doctor said. So that means we need more before and after witnesses now. So I’m to lean on you now. That means we’re going to do this instead. Or we heard this, like, okay, that probably is going to close our claim. But I’m going to go talk to one other person. I’m going to talk to our ex, right? This person who could actually the judge may listen to and…
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can throw feedback on it then I’ll get back to you, right? So there should always be some kind of plan of action and always a follow up. Here are the options. You don’t have to decide today. I want you to think about this and then we’ll come back and read this.
yeah, yeah. Great. you, right. You all, I make them sleep on it. I say that, right? Like just like you don’t go to a car dealership and walk away with a car. You go home and go to sleep. You wake up in the morning and then you decide, you don’t buy a house the same day you walk through one. You shouldn’t come into the lawyer’s office and have the lawyer say, okay, but you got to make your decision. No, no, that’s, everybody resists that type of pressure as they should. So right. You let them sleep on it. You say, Hey,
If your wife or husband has any questions for me, let’s have another conversation where between the three of us, or they can call me directly. If we need to have a couple more conversations before you make a decision, that’s fine. This isn’t like we got to have this answer in by Friday at five. And if it is, then you better be on Monday.
Yeah. Yeah. And I would say, because we definitely, and you and I are talking about this, when we have that factor, we got to come in and manage expectations. But if we’re talking about time conversations, like if you’re managing expectations and keeping communication lines open, when you do have that time, when you do have that, this is our deadline of deciding to go to trial or take that settlement.
they know you’re going to get in space and time and options to think about it. And they’re going to be able to make that decision much quicker than somebody else who hasn’t had as many car stations with you and discussions and knows much is going on in the case.
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Exactly. And kind of the typical example is mediation. mean, they got to make a decision, which really we all know is you can ask for an extension and you should, if you have an indecisive client, that’s kind of what you should do for their sake. But I don’t really have that issue. And I don’t often, because I think you’re starting that conversation weeks before the mediation, or least a week before the mediation by copying them with the settlement brochure. Obviously you call them to go through it before you send it.
Talking to them again a couple of days before the morning dog. So that’s how you’re approaching virtually everything. Deposition prep, the direct examination at trial. And in doing so, you’re never actually putting them in that pressure cooker where they have a time limit. And I mean, I know I won’t accept that, know, clients will, they’ll jump off the cliff before they’ll climb down if they feel like it’s their only choice and you’re not giving them any other options, you know? So to their own detriment, I mean, I just have a client right now who
She’s got a chronic illness and there is a treatment for it. It’s terminal. But she’s holistic and she doesn’t feel comfortable with modern American medicine and for whatever, you feel about that is irrelevant. This is a human, it was a life that’s worth saving. And the doctor’s saying, this is your only choice and if you don’t do this, I swear to I’m going to get rid of you and you’ll never get treated. I’ll tell every other doctor not. I mean, he’s going crazy. But what he’s really doing is saying this is your only choice and that’s that.
So, she’s exploring all this other stuff. It’s not working and I’m sure her doctor’s unsurprised by that. But what she’s not doing is engaging in lifesaving treatment. And I think a huge part of the reason is because she was given one choice and an immediate, better get on it right now. And it’s like, that’s a mistake. That’s a professional mistake. You might be able to save that person with a different approach. And all it is is your words and your attitude. Why would you not adjust?
So I’m obviously this at the doctor, but I’m also on his team. mean, I agree with him. It’s just the way that he’s delivering it.
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Yeah. And I think, yeah, that type of alice is deliberate for sure. And I think you can yell at me, human type, all of it is. You can’t tell me what to do with one option. Right. That goes for anything. you call my CPA, they tell me there’s, nope, you got one option and you got a pale, that’s like, my daughter tells me there’s one option. Like, well, you know, I’m pretty sure that they have more than one way to solve problems. that, you have been so awesome. Let me just.
Yeah.
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Make sure there’s not anything, any other tips or tricks or things that you can think of that would help those as far as when we think about like, okay, products will advise for managing client’s expectations before it gets too late.
I we hit the majority of the stuff that I wanted to get out, but I really feel like I ought to just bounce that question right back to you because I’ve gotten more from you on client preparation than anybody I can think of. So I really appreciate the opportunity to discuss this stuff with you though and learn from you and hope it has some valuable information for your listeners who are, I know there’s a lot of them and they’re all excellent trial attorneys. So thank you very much.
Yeah, and I think we definitely nailed it and I think sometimes it’s just, we all need a little refresh, right? So maybe this episode is just a refresher for everybody who’s listening. I’m like, yeah, like I do need to make sure and like checking with people and that’s all it’s about. And for me thinking about managing expectations, doing it a major pin at higher, at major decision points, at litigation.
filing litigation, a deposition point, making sure we’re communicating those things because those are pivotal points checking in. And that’s really all you got to do. And when you get the bad news, just pull the band-aid off. The festering is like the worst. Because sometimes you just can’t. Then you really have to manage a whole different problem and like literally crossing your ears and hoping for the best. And that’s never what you want to do with a case or a client.
I couldn’t agree more. And everybody knows that. The only reason you don’t do that is because you’re trying to avoid it because you don’t want to have to that conversation or you’re worried or you’re insecure. But that’s the same rule that applies to any relationship you have in life. You got to address those issues before they turn sour and the virus spreads.
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It is absolutely true because most people, they’ve already made a commitment to you. They signed a paper, they’re with you. But it’s still a relationship we both have to do work in. It’s not a one way street, no matter what relationship it is. So yeah, you need to have expectations. They need to know what they are. They have expectations and you need to find out what they are. Because that communication line is sometimes half about with folks. then the only thing I would add is like,
And I most people have some kind of case management situation that helps them document all our case notes and call notes. I used to just literally use a Word document that had like a date and action conversation. So I always had everything in one place. That was super simplistic take on it. I’m sure there’s lots of fancy case management software out there, but having that documentation and having those emails with us is really helpful too.
just to make sure sometimes you got to have that timeline to remind people like we covered this in the beginning. Here, I’m going to remind you one more time. And here we are. We’re now having this impact on you. Hard to see that impact a year ago, but here it was along the way. So just another little fine tune point, but.
Matt, again, thank you so much for joining the podcast today. Hey folks, if you want to learn more about Matt or you want to get in touch with him or you want to go to an interview in light of it, or I will tell you, if you want to pick his brain about Worker’s Comp and what the lobbying efforts and what they’re doing there, this is your guy. He literally is the point guy. So please reach out to him. He is in wealth of knowledge on that stuff. All of his contact information will be in the show notes. So if you want to contact him.
Actually, Matt, let me ask you, what’s the best way for people to get a hold of you or they want to learn more about you? What’s the best way?
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Yeah, absolutely. can, anybody can shoot me an email at mattmatt at Murphy law office.net. So M-U-R-P-H-Y L-A-W-O-F-F-I-C-E.NET or call my office at 406-452-2345. Like you said, I’d be happy to talk with anybody regarding anything, especially Montana work comp or any other states work comp. love to collaborate on those issues and find it to be very valuable. So thank you again, Elizabeth.
Awesome. All right. I think that we’ll get all those contacts in the show notes. And if you enjoy the podcast, please read and review it on your favorite podcast platform. If you’d to connect with me, go to LinkedIn. I’m trying to get more folks to connect with me on LinkedIn. And so that’s what I would ask for you today. And otherwise, thank you so much for listening.